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Our kids are growing up fast and in a generation with electronics their parents never knew. Recent family statistics mention that:
- on average, 53 hours per week of a child's life is spent interacting with some sort of screen media
- kids are sleeping less
- children are involved in more non-family activities
- children are being treated more as confidantes by their parents rather than as a child,
- kids have less time to be still or interact with family.
These don't come without consequences.
One of those consequences is increased stress. A second consequence is a need for immediacy, and awkwardness with normal communication. Kids also feel more overwhelmed with emotions they don't understand or have the ability to process. The brain changes as we grow and continues to change as it acquires new information.
An overload of information, or inability to manage the information, leads to anxiety, depression, and stress in our children. The evidence is everywhere. Attention deficit disorders are a real issue, but environmental influences cannot be overlooked. Many parents are as stressed, if not more, than their children. And when children don't understand what is going on, it is likely they will try to help mom and dad by taking on some of their unspoken worries and concerns.
|Parents traveling with their jobs, taking on more work, venting personal information to their children, or signing their child up for one more class or activity at night to help with carpooling may help everyone get home, but it may also be the very activity that pushes a healthy balance to an unhealthy point for their child. Just as parents need "down time," their children do, too. The loss of childhood is a serious and complex problem facing many families in America.|
|How can we protect our children's youth, help them manage necessary stress and minimize unnecessary stress? Below are a few suggestions for parents in managing their own stress as well as helping their children.|
Parents, help your children minimize and manage stress by:* Talking to your kids about what is causing them stress in their life, and less about what is causing stress in your own life.
* Focusing on helping your child develop a routine to follow each day. Consistency and structure minimize stress in kids.
* Making sure you have a bed time plan and your child is getting plenty of sleep. Catching up on weekends is not okay.
* Planning family meals rather than going out for fast food will reduce stress. Healthy eating doesn't have to be time consuming, and it allows you to spend more time engaged with your child.
* Choosing fewer planned activities allows children time to journal or work on hobbies giving them more control and encouraging healthy coping skills and stress management.
|You cannot escape stress--and some stress is good for us. However, when your child becomes anxious, weepy, and unable to focus, it's time to make changes in your family's lifestyle.|
About the Author:
|Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC, is a licensed psychotherapist and co-author with Janine J. Sherman, of Start Talking: A Girl's Guide for You and Your Mom About Health, Sex or Whatever. Read more about the book at www.StartTalkingBook.com and more about Rapini at www.maryjorapini.com.|