Synopsis:
What if your child's 'life-after-divorce' could be better than you've hoped for? As the post-divorce dust settles, your child's chances of leading a healthy, successful life are directly linked to how you and your former spouse relate. So instead of listening to statistics, read this book to discover real world co-parenting strategies from author, counselor, and co-parent Tammy Daughtry.
Discover how you can make positive co-parenting work for you and your child by:
-Understanding how today's actions will affect your child in five, ten, and twenty years
- Teaming with your child's co-parent to develop strategies in the best interest of your children
-Helping your child feel at ease in both homes
-Increasing your child's self-esteem while minimizing anxiety
Integrating stepparents into your co-parenting team Co-parenting isn't easy. But with these strategies for success, you'll be prepared to create an enjoyable childhood and a healthy upbringing that will impact your child for a lifetime. Take heart---the future can be better and brighter than you've dared to hope.
Review:
First off, this book is Christian. Daughtry's ministries and faith are apparent in every page, and while divorce is not what the Lord may have wished, it is a reality that many faithful have to address, and she wishes to help you through it fully! The ultimate goal as she puts it is: "One heart, two homes" . Such a simple statement, but the core of what every parent truly DOES want for their child, as no matter what happens in each parent's lives, both of you are still your child's parents, and their immediate family. Family- the concept that gets lost in divorce, but NOT in children's hearts! Check out this video snippet about the book (you can check out the rest of the video previews on the book on her website):
Keeping that core thought at heart, Daughtry offers some really great advice about talking over issues at times other than when the kids are going back and forth (great if the other party is willing!) and not around. This way, if you argue, the kids are not witnessing it. In my job this is one thing I hate seeing- divorced parents will literally have just about WWIII in front of the kids and NOT think about what it is doing to THEM, and how it affects them as ADULTS. This is the 2nd part of Daughtry's concept- TEAMM - The End Adult Matters Most. What we as parents do and say NOW, will affect our child later as an ADULT, forming their own relationships and having children. Think about that for a moment. To me, THAT is the scariest part of divorce- now may be fine, but what about 20 years from now? Will my child find someone truly worthy of them? What things do we do now that can change and help her in the future?
I also really liked that Daughtry faces the tough topics too- dealing with an absentee parent and explaining it to your child, dealing with extended family of your ex, especially at the holidays and also moving on. And even to the inevitable wedding, and having to deal with your ex, and be an united front in a much different way! These are topics that usually aren't as well talked about in 'parenting guides', but the ones that divorced parents REALLY need the most help with!
I truly wish that this book was REQUIRED reading for couple going through divorces, with children, so that everyone could see how we should co-parent our lovely children! If you're going through a divorce, pick this book up, and/or if you know someone who is, get them this book! I can't recommend it enough!
Keeping that core thought at heart, Daughtry offers some really great advice about talking over issues at times other than when the kids are going back and forth (great if the other party is willing!) and not around. This way, if you argue, the kids are not witnessing it. In my job this is one thing I hate seeing- divorced parents will literally have just about WWIII in front of the kids and NOT think about what it is doing to THEM, and how it affects them as ADULTS. This is the 2nd part of Daughtry's concept- TEAMM - The End Adult Matters Most. What we as parents do and say NOW, will affect our child later as an ADULT, forming their own relationships and having children. Think about that for a moment. To me, THAT is the scariest part of divorce- now may be fine, but what about 20 years from now? Will my child find someone truly worthy of them? What things do we do now that can change and help her in the future?
I also really liked that Daughtry faces the tough topics too- dealing with an absentee parent and explaining it to your child, dealing with extended family of your ex, especially at the holidays and also moving on. And even to the inevitable wedding, and having to deal with your ex, and be an united front in a much different way! These are topics that usually aren't as well talked about in 'parenting guides', but the ones that divorced parents REALLY need the most help with!
I truly wish that this book was REQUIRED reading for couple going through divorces, with children, so that everyone could see how we should co-parent our lovely children! If you're going through a divorce, pick this book up, and/or if you know someone who is, get them this book! I can't recommend it enough!
About the Author:
Tammy Daughtry is the founder of Co-Parenting International (www.coparentinginternational.com), an organization dedicated to address the critical impact of co-parenting on children of divorce. Tammy organizes and speaks at numerous events and classes and has written articles for various publications. She holds a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy and has over eleven years experience in real-life co-parenting. Tammy is a member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, Board member with the YMCA of Middle TN, a member of the TN Latin American Chamber of Commerce, an active advocate for kids caught in the aftermath of divorce, a teacher, counselor and co-parenting coachShe and her daughter live in Nashville.
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