Tuesday, May 31, 2016

Book Review and Giveaway: A Teen’s Guide to the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman with Paige Haley Drygas

Disclosure / Disclaimer: I received this ebook, free of charge,from Northfield Publishing/Moody for review purposes on this blog. No other compensation, monetary or in kind, has been received or implied for this post. Nor was I told how to post about it, all opinions are my own.


In a teenager’s world of hashtags and chat acronyms, where relationships are measured by Facebook likes and Instagram followers, and where a long-term friendship can be discarded with a click of the mouse, developing lasting, meaningful relationships can be a challenge. But there is hope. The secret? Learning to speak love and appreciation in a language the other person can receive.

If you want to help your readers better understand their teens and what they’re facing, this new book is for you:

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Synopsis:

In the new book, Chapman lays a foundation for what love really is (a choice) and how that translates into all relationships, and takes teens step-by-step through each of the individual love languages. He outlines the general characteristics of each love language, explains the various dialects within each language, and offers practical examples of how to communicate the love languages in the daily ups-and-downs of relationships. He also spends time focusing on helping teens navigate their relationship with their parents and siblings (it doesn’t have to be negative), shares how to handle anger and apologies, and encourages teens to focus on their “tribe.”

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“Our culture often dilutes the meaning of the word love,” says Gary Chapman. “We tend to use the same word for how we feel about Belgian waffles or a football team that we use to describe our deepest bonds. And for many teens, the word “love” often conjures up images of romance. But, as we learn, love is much more than that and when we understand how to communicate love within all of our relationships, we’ll live a much richer life.”


Review:

“Discovering your own love language helps you understand why you feel more loved by and connected to certain people,” says Chapman. “Once you know your own love language, you start to get your instincts—why you love others the way you do, why you’re drawn to specific people, what you’re looking for in a relationship. This self-knowledge can really help you in life.”

But this knowledge is a boon to parents as well!

Miss Grace and I are so much alike, yet as puberty is beginning, I can see where her inner personality is beginning to divert from being mini me. And the key way that it is showing is in the Love languages. Now she is definitely a Quality Time over Acts of Service, where it used to be gifts. As mine is more Acts of Service and Gifts, you can see where we may butt heads literally! By using this book as a foundation, we are able to see where we need to change how we approach each other for not only day to day functions, but when arguments arise. For example, grounding has no true negative factor to her, but telling her she can't go somewhere with me? That's the HORROR. So by knowing what affects her more, as a parent, I know how to better parent her. AHA. How to deal with a strong willed child 101 solved! WOOT!

There is a facilitator's guide on Dr Chapman's website, that would be worthwhile to print out for parents and Youth leaders, as it offers some great role play scenarios, to help illustrate what is talked about in the book, and how it applies to your lives as parent and child
This book should be required reading for all parents. Because even if you thought you knew your child's love language, as they reach puberty it might change. And by understanding that, you might just be able to alleviate the horrors of teenhood and have a super parent/teen relationship! SO be sure to check this out and work with it over the Summer. By Fall, you can have a new routine, that will really facilitate Back to School chaos! I highly recommend it!


About the Authors

Gary Chapman, Ph.D., is an author, speaker, and counselor who has a passion for people and helping them form lasting relationships. He is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The 5 Love Languages® and the director of Marriage and Family Life Consultants, Inc. Gary travels the world presenting seminars and his radio programs air on more than 400 stations. For more information, visit 5lovelanguages.com.

Paige Haley Drygas has worked in Christian publishing since 1999. She has contributed to more than 125 published products as a writer, editor, and project manager. Paige has a BA in English from Wheaton College and an MAT from National-Louis University and is a University of Chicago–trained manuscript editor. In her former life, she taught high school English at Wheaton Academy and coached soccer. Paige lives with her husband, Joe, and their two sons in Peachtree City, GA.


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Giveaway:

One BTHM reader will win their own copy of this lovely book:

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