> Bless Their Hearts Mom: Guest Post: Giving In Secret by Kelly Moss, author of The Santa Club
Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Guest Post: Giving In Secret by Kelly Moss, author of The Santa Club

Many of our most beloved Christmas traditions revolve around giving in secret.  I like the idea of giving in secret.  It places emphasis on the Christian virtues of generosity, charity and love, rather than on recognition, ostentation and one-up-manship.  St. Nicholas – the model for Santa Claus – was the original secret giver.  St. Nicholas was the real Bishop of Patara, in what is now Turkey, during the third century AD.  During his most famous exploit, the saint dropped 3 bags of gold coins down a poor man’s chimney, so he could afford his daughter’s dowry without the humiliation of having to beg for money.  (Supposedly, one of the bags landed in the daughter’s sock that was drying over the embers in the fireplace, which is why we hang stockings today!)  

St. Nicholas’s example has inspired us to give on Christmas ever since.  Unfortunately, rather than focusing on the joy that comes from simple charitable giving, our modern society has increasingly focused on buying things.  How do we change this trend and teach our children to appreciate the joys that come from the “gift of giving?”

Well, everything starts with the home, including charity!  Christmas is the perfect time to teach the “gift of giving” to your children.  It is a lifelong lesson that will not only make your child a more gracious person, but more fulfilled and happier as well.  So where to start?  Here are some good traditions you can start right now with your family to teach the gift of giving.  

  1. Give Randomly
Have your children make cards and small gifts, wrap them and carry them to family and friends’ houses to slide under the tree when no one is watching.  Make sure they do not put who the gift is from.  Not only is this fun, but it’s a great surprise on Christmas Day.  We call this “random acts of giving” in my family.

  1. Help Kids in Need
Make holiday cards and send them to the local children’s hospital.  On the outside of the envelope put a little note asking the staff to give it to a boy or girl of an appropriate age spending Christmas in the hospital.  It is wonderful to let the child in the hospital know that another family is thinking of them!

  1. Drop, Ring, and Run!
Buy food for an elderly neighbor or a local family in need.  Drop it at their doorstop, ring the doorbell and run.  Make sure you leave a note wishing a Merry Christmas.  In my family, we called this “Drop, ring, and run!”  It is so much fun- and with so many people struggling this holiday season, it is a wonderful way to give in secret.

  1. Food Banks
Take a family trip to the store and buy extra food to donate to your local food bank.  Every food bank is struggling more than usual this year, so not only are you helping, but your kids learn about hunger and the need for charity in our country!

  1. Giving Jars
Start a giving jar that you can fill with marbles or pennies for every great deed or nice word your children say this holiday season.  Make the jar small enough that kids can fill it quickly, and once full, think of a fun way to give it back to your community.  Find a local charity event, or family in need, and have your kids decide how to give it in secret!

  1. Simple Gifts
Have your child make and wrap ornaments to give to someone they see who is unhappy.  This also falls under the “random acts of giving” category!  As an example, if your child sees a small child crying in a store, they can pop out their gift.  I know for sure this small act works wonders for both the giver and the receiver!

  1. One For the Road
When family members or friends visit for an overnight stay, have your children put notes or small gifts in their shoes or suitcases before they go home.  This is so much fun and still a tradition in many countries!

  1. Mini Trees
Buy small Christmas trees and decorate them as inexpensively as you can with popcorn and dried berries, then drop them off at neighbor’s doorsteps with a “Merry Christmas” note.  What a wonderful surprise when they wake up in the morning and walk out their door!

  1. Brainstorm!
Have your family think of ways to give in secret!  Then try and do these steps at random times during the year, so the “gift of giving” becomes more than a holiday tradition.  As your children get older, you will be amazed at how they’ve learned to love to give.  It becomes a way of life!

  1. Is Santa Real?
The Santa Club cov erWhen your older children are old enough to ask “Is Santa Real?” have them become part of The Santa Club.  Tell them “Yes, Santa’s real!  In fact there are many of them- everybody who gives a present to show how much they care about somebody!”  Let them in on the secret of “The Santa Club,” and have them stay up to help with a younger sibling’s gifts.  Make it joyful and fun.  Once they finish, have them put out the presents and go to bed, before you put out their gifts!

We all hope that this Christmas and all that follow will be a blessing for you, and that these fun ways to give will start a new “Santa Club” tradition for your family!

About the Author: Kelly Moss is the CEO of JoeBro Records and JonJam Productions, small independent entertainment based companies located in Henderson, NV. When not working she donates her time speaking to or helping young artists navigate the entertainment industry without getting swindled. This is her first book. Kelly has three children, two sons who are professional actors in Los Angeles and a lovely daughter who was adopted from Kazakhstan at the age of fourteen. Kelly is in the process of writing her second book on how to be a Stageparent your children can be proud of.

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