Book Review: The Child Whisperer from Carol Tuttle

Do you ever feel that you and your child are coming from two different paths and you just don't understand your child?

I may have found the PERFECT solution to help you and your child find a path of mutual understanding and that can bring PEACE to your household!

Synopsis: You've been there feeling helpless, clueless, when a child you love totally bewilders you.

Maybe it's the tantrum at the store, or the hour-long bedtime battle, or the head-scratcher of getting your child to eat veggies. You wonder what on Earth to do, so you get advice, read books,

watch videos, ask the internet. And still, something's missing.

You need a plan that addresses your child's needs, not everyone else's. Why couldn't children come with a handbook?

Turns out, children are born with a handbook they are the handbook.

In The Child Whisperer, bestselling author Carol Tuttle explains that children tell their parents every day exactly how they need to be parented. They tell their teachers exactly how they need to be taught. Children are trying to tell adults who they are so they can be recognized and treated in a way that honors them uniquely.

The Child Whisperer reveals that the key to raising happy, healthy, cooperative children lies in understanding and responding to a child's inner nature.

Children's true natures are written in the shape of their faces and expressed daily in their appearance, body language, tone of voice, and choice of words. Your child's unique laugh, cry, joys, worries, and even tantrums speak volumes about they type of parenting they need. And you'll learn exactly how to offer it by reading The Child Whisperer.

This simple but unique approach actually makes parenting more intuitive, fun, cooperative, and most importantly customized to your individual child.

The Child Whisperer will give you the tools to:

- Have a happier, more cooperative child, using less discipline
- Foster more confidence and natural success in your child
- Repair trouble parent/teen relationships
- Reconnect with your adult children

The Child Whisperer teaches how to read unsaid clues that children naturally give every day, and shows how parenting, teaching, coaching, and mentoring children can be an even more intuitive, cooperative experience than ever.

Review: 
Reading this book was like seeing my child FINALLY defined for me! Carol explains that there are 4 basic natures and when our child does not have the same nature as their parents, there can be misunderstanding literally from the day they are brought home!

The four types of children are:

The Fun Loving Child -aka the social butterfly, who might be seen as overactive and hyper
The Sensitive Child - the emotionally.sensitive child, who might be seen as shy and withdrawn
The Determined Child- the adventerous child, who might be seen as demanding and loud
The More Serious Child- the intellectual child, who might be seen as critical know it alls.

I bet in those four simple descriptions, something rang true for a minute didn't it?

Carol believes as parents, we should help our kids basically be the best that THEY, and their natures, want to be. When we don't put our inner worth's on our children, there's cane come out and blossom. When kids naturally achieve they things THEY are interested in, they are not only more focused on them, they are HAPPY. And as we all know happy kids equal happy households!

In reading the book it felt like Carol was describing Kiddo, a true Type 1 Fun Loving Kid, from her physical traits, to infanthood, onto her preschool years, EXACTLY. Kiddo is a pleasing child and wants to make adults around her happy and is always running around-she never crawled! In reading the chapter on Type 1 kids I realized that what as a mother I had intuitively realized was accurate- once she masters something she moves on, if it is a fun social outing she wants to be there, Montessori pre-school was perfect for her as it kept her moving onto new things, so Kindergarten and HOMEWORK is hard, and yes she always lights up the room when she comes into it! She is in fact the perfect kid to be a cheerleader- it is social, fun and physical- all attributes that are in her nature. So yes, I signed her up for Pep-Squad this year, and she is esctatic! She LOVES it!

The chapter helped me to rethink how we handle her homework- we let her come home, change, eat and relax. Then we do a little homework, let her play, come back and do more, play some more, and then finish. What we get in return is a happy camper, who when she wants to attack coursework, does it with a very serious intent! The change is evident in her test grades already! It also confirmed how traditional discipline has NOT worked with her. Time out? Nope. Taking away toys? Nope. What works? Warning her in advance of consequences and FOLLOWING through, Having us disappointed in her behavior is worse to her than time out- she wants us to be happy with her! It is hard to sometimes remember to step back and rethink before we act with her, but when we do, we get the best from her.

I also discovered that I am definitely more of a Type 4 personality- so I have to make more of an effort to 'chill' and let her take charge and lead the way when we are out on our adventures! By recognizing my type versus hers now, it should help us in when the pre-teen hormones hit! It also explains where my mother and I had our issues at- she's more of a Type 1 (which also explains why she had more of an intuitive understanding of Kiddo as an infant! Though she claims I was the same way!)

What I found interesting was that Carol allowed that as we get older, we may adapt part of a different energy type and be a combination of 2. And in fact, our parents can wear off on us, giving us some of their energy type personality. So it makes sense to me that I am a 4 with a 1, and Kiddo seems to be taking on some aspects of a 4!

Carol devotes an entire chapter to each personality type, giving physical characteristics, natural gifts and talents, personality traits, thoughts and feeling processes, how they communicate, behavioral tendencies from infant to adulthood, learning tendencies, physical development and how to parent that type of child. She gives wonderful examples and tips throughout as well. These chapters are 50-60 pages, so they are very thorough.She also gives you thorough chapters on how to determine which type your child is as a baby and toddler, and what popular parenting approaches work/don't work for the types, how your family/religious cultures might be working against your child and how to change adult parent/chil;d relationships.

All in all, this was a VERY thorough book and I was very surprised at just HOW accurate everything was! I HIGHLY recommend this book to every new parent, as a resource they need to have in raising their kids! Pick it up today and see where you can change the relationship between you and your child/children and make your households even happier!




About the Author: Carol Tuttle is a teacher, speaker, healer—and the original Child Whisperer.  Her fifth and latest book, The Child Whisperer, turns longstanding parenting assumptions on their head and gives adults eye-opening tools to understand and honor the children in their lives. For over 20 years, her work in the field of self-help and personal development has helped thousands worldwide to improve their lives and relationships. Check out the website for the book, via her blog, Facebook and Twitter!




Disclosure / Disclaimer: I was sent this book, free of charge, for review purposes, from Media Connect Publishing. No other compensation, monetary or in kind, has been received or implied for this post. Nor was I told how to post about it.